How to make a decision in your Twin Flame connection
For the purpose of this article, you must understand 2 main ideas:
1. You cannot mess up your Twin connection, so it’s hardly relevant
2. You must go deeper than the options you are weighing now.
When Twins come to me for an energy session, most times they tell a scenario and ask what they should do. My answer is based on the following 2 points:
* What does your heart want (regardless of how unpopular the idea would be)
* Go deeper. Neither of your options are a great plan of action.
The thing is that the person you and your Twin will BE when Union happens, is NOT the people you are now.
Both of you are on a journey to grow and develop.
It is common for one Twin (usually the etherical, feminine polarity) to feel like their Twin has more “work” to do on themselves because of the external life situations they are in.
However, each Twin is a mirror reflection of the other. Meaning, if your Twin has a messed up situation(s) in their life that seem practically impossible to get out of, you are having a series of trapping thought and/or emotional issues reflected to you. This is something you can work in yourself and have so much freedom and peace inside of yourself. Don’t fall into the trap (like we all would do at some time) and think they are the holy, hot mess and you need to separate your life from them.
So, what do you do instead?
The energy that you are coming from when making the decision is the key.
Torque is a tricky thing that can allow us to foolishly believe we are “right” about something. It is a slight energetic tilt that throws everything off.
To determine your torque think of a scale of 1 to 10. Then ask yourself:
- How much do I want this?
- How triggered am I?
- How much do I care about what other people are going to think?
Rate each question then take pause. If your number is over 3 on any of these, you will be causing more mess in your connection by choosing any plan of action. Because it will have torqued energy instead of clean energy. (Clean energy only means direct energy without contradictory energy).
Of course it is always ok to make any decision because you truly cannot mess up your Twin connection. Though you can hit their wounding by speaking from your own wounding and they may not want to interact with you for a while.
When people come to session asking me what to do in a particular scenario, I can explain to them what is causing their torque, but until the session is over, they won’t understand what to do. Even if I would straight up tell them, their system wouldn’t be settled about it (not have clean energy) because they still feel contradictory energy.
After we heal the piece causing the torque in session, they get the answer clear as day as an energetic imprint.
Fears and distortion keep us from seeing the next step clearly.
We bumble around until life presents us with something that pushes us so much (and usually hurts) that we finally pay close attention. That’s what causes the delay on Union. Until something hurts, the next piece isn’t usually worked on.
Since this is a growth journey, regularly working any next piece will make the time frame shorter.
Also, the grounded, masculine polarity may oftenly not be spiritually awakened. The objective is NOT for them to be.
It is fairy tale stuff to think that your grounded Twin will definitely “awaken” in the way the etherical Twin is. Some of them will, but it is irrelevant whether or not they actually do. To think that would be a spiritual superiority complex. Definitely something to heal if you have that going on.
So, my best advice is stay in your lane and heal. This means looking at your Twin only for reflection of YOUR inner work to do.
Example: If your Twin has addictions, look for your addictions. Clearly if you are longing for them, that is addiction energy to heal. Eventually, you will not feel longing for them, only love. It may be layers of healing down the road, but such is the case for their addiction too.
We are currently in the process of healing for so many collective issues because Twins are creating a new Energetic Template. That means our entire psyche and energy field will be reworked into a pure form.
That doesn’t mean that Union can’t happen until we’re finished building the template. We couldn’t even finish the template without the lessons we will learn in Union.
So, don’t be disheartened. I’ve seen Union happen long before people thought it would. And often a Twin will message when they haven’t been heard from in so long, they had practically become a “dream” figure in someone’s life.
When we stay in our own healing lane and let Spirit work on them, the best results happen.
This is all happening in Divine Timing.
If you’d like to learn more about my membership group where I do remote transmissions for you and your Twin weekly, click here.
Heather is a Twin Flame who has been hosting a support group for several years. She teaches about the newest energy tools to quantum-leap the progress to union. She also teaches about the most current existentialism on the planet as it is downloaded to her. She shares this knowledge predominately in her membership group Modern Consciousness.
Receive an email when a new blog post is released.