The 5 Things that Keep Twin Flames in Separation

1. Trauma -
Trauma keeps us in a holding pattern because it energetically freezes the energy field. When you unfreeze the energetic body by DELETING the PROGRAM of trauma in your system, you experience life in a completely different way. Your perceptions begin to change, you are able to feel differently because you won’t trigger, you’ll be able to make better decisions which, of course, you simply can’t make when you are looping a trauma reel.

When you finally are able to shift your energy, you will shift your decisions. When you shift your decisions is when your situation will change. AND YES! Your Twin’s situation will change. Not because the external world will shift (although that is possible) but because his/her inner world will shift.

You’ve probably heard that shifting the energy inside of you will shift your Twin too. While that is true, what I’ve learned is that when you can hold your new STANDARD, that you create from doing your inner work, and are able to HOLD to it by your decisions, that is really when things catapult forward.

When we are in a trauma loop, we simply are afraid that raising our standards will mean that they WON’T be able to come closer to us, when in fact, it works the exact opposite.

It you try raising your standards by “deciding” you won’t settle for less without deleting the trauma program in your system that keeps your energy putting out a fear energy, you will only add gas to the fire of the situation and end up really traumatizing both of you. As in, you’ll hit their core wounding again and add another round of healing to the situation.

Energetically raising your standards is the best suggested way to go about that process. Deleting the trauma beforehand makes it even easier to energetically raise your standards.


2. Past wounding

Past wounding is something we all have. It also creates trauma, as I covered in point 1. Sometimes it may seem like this wounding is something that will take years to heal, but that is absolutely NOT true. It doesn’t exactly work like that energetically. Sometimes, a person can just feel that they need to be with a particular someone at that moment.

Take the karmic for example. They clearly are getting wounding there and they stay. Why? Because their soul says so. They are working out clearing things in that space. When their soul gives them the go ahead, they’ll pop out of there in one solid second. But, same goes with their interaction with you.

​Until you get to a particular point on your journey with your wounding (part of which they are reflecting to you by separation) your soul and theirs will say this is NOT a conducive space for their soul to be consistently involved in. It is our soul that is trying to learn these lessons and governs when and how things will unfold. So, the sooner you learn your Soul Lessons about this, the sooner separation can be over. Past wounding is where we dive into the “whys” of how we run our lives and shift the process. This is what helps us to grow as a person in a HUGE way!


3. Karma

Ahhh! The dreaded karma, lol. Yeah, nobody likes it. It’s also one of the most illusive energies because it deals with things that are beyond our awareness. Karma is social programming, ancestral patterns, past life issues, masculine and feminine patterns (we’ll talk about that one next) and other collective lessons this world is working on learning.
Yes, we can begin to DELETE the program of karma running in our energetic body. I do this just like I do trauma deletion sessions.

You can also do lots of past life, ancestral and masculine and feminine healing work. That would be the long way around the forest, but you could learn a LOT and grow a lot of compassion for what you and everyone else is going through. It could make you a lot more well-rounded of a person. And even if you do the deletion process, there still may be some pieces that you will definitely have to do healing work on if your system needs your conscious mind to know about something in order for you to complete your mission.

4. Masculine and Feminine distortion patterns

This is a HUGE part of the Twin journey because we are creating a new template for relationships on the planet. So, we sometimes have to go through some of the junk patterns in order to even notice that it needs shifting. I mean, it would be nice if we had incarnated as an enlightened being from the start, but that’s clearly not the way Spirit chose for all of this to go down.

We get the wounding, programming and patterns, then we find a path to shifting it.

Unfortunately, there are sooo many of these patterns, but we work our way through them. Since we all have masculine and feminine energy, we have both patterns. Of course, each person has a particular “polarity” that their system is embodying. So, say you feel you are a feminine polarity, you will have more feminine distortion patterns to clear for and your counterpart will have more masculine. However, both will have both to clear for to some degree.

Example: I am a feminine polarity. I had an ex who was definitely a masculine polarity. However, in order to play out our lessons for one another, he was at that time, undergoing massive distorted feminine energy patterns. Like lethargy, distorted receiving from others, not having clean energy exchanges and still being willing to receive that way, over-giving out of ego, etc.

Playing out and healing these dynamics get complicated when you try to talk to anyone who is not on a Spiritual development journey because it can look like a hot mess. When the energy gets really close and sticky to your center, it’s probably best to not discuss it with people who don’t understand Twin patterns.

What I would advise is to keep your inner knowing that this journey is for YOU and YOU are learning what you need and YOU will progress and grow exactly as your soul chooses. Then maybe you can speak to others from that more empowered space. I know people have a tendency to worry about us. But, if we hold the energy of our own growth as priority, they simmer down a bit.

Also, having a trained eye on your situation can help you from falling into a pit that you have to climb yourself out of in order to do your next round of healing.

5. Imploded/Leaking Energy Field

This is the reason so many people question whether or not their person is really their Twin. It is easier for the Feminine/Etherical polarity to, on some level, pass judgment on a Twin if they are super imploded or leaking. An imploded or leaking energy field can get you into some sticky situations with not much of a pleasant way out. Also, it can cause them to live in those kind of experiences regularly. The can definitely not “seem” like a Divine counterpart some or most of the time.

But, those feelings, ahhhh, well it’s unmistakable. You know what you know. Well, when your mind isn’t throwing doubts at you to get you out of it, lol.

Side note: Your mind throwing doubts is a protection mechanism that is trying to keep you safe and NOT learn your soul lessons. If you choose to go with your mind now instead of getting to the root of feeling unsafe in whatever way, you’ll come back for another round at some point soon.

What I’ve seen is this: So many Masculines have a super imploded energy field and the Feminines have a super leaky one. This leads to a super stuck and co-dependent interaction which can last for years if not adjusted energetically because imploded and leaky are main ways your energy field will operate.

As in, if you are leaking, you are leaking energy everywhere, at all times in all areas of life. It’s easy to look at someone else and notice that they are worse off. However, our work is ours and ours alone to do. I used to leak energy every. damn. where. And life wasn’t fun when I would get a nice, little reflection of that. Like a lack of appreciation for things I had done, people not even noticing me or my efforts, boundary crossers everywhere, exhaustion, frustration, and a lack of trust in people.

The thing is, whether your energy field is imploded or leaking, you still have holes. So, you can kind of look at it as a similar or same thing. It will keep you in patterns that will keep you in separation.

When you shift your energy and raise your standards, then you will see the results you want. Don’t look at their journey with a lack of faith. That pity or lack of belief in them is YOUR work to heal in you. Then when you can raise your standards, you’ll really see what they are capable of!!

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